A few years ago, my therapist told me that clients don’t come to her when their life is in shambles. Besides people in grief, the majority of her clients had relatively peaceful lives. Yet they sought therapy. When life is in a chaotic state it’s easy to emotionally cruise through. At least for me it is. Bills need to be paid. Someone needs my help.
I don’t know about sabotage exactly. But when things are going well I often have a suspicious feeling like okay when does the other shoe drop? Or what am I missing? I’m trying to work on enjoying moments of happiness without grasping or looking for the downside.
I feel you big time. That high standard thing feels very Virgoan, as well as that Hermit tendency to isolate when you feel that you haven’t lived up to said standards. That is definitely a pattern for me too.
I don't worry about self-sabotage. I would speculate the reason people not in crisis go is in crisis, as you note, you gotta do or die, so to speak.
Out of crisis you have the ability to recognize "That was pretty awful, I never wanna be there again, and oh Goddesses if I lose my job I could be fucked in under a year". And that comes from feeling insecure.
And, well, nobody but the ultra-wealthy feels secure these days. And I think that anxiety is what people are seeking out therapy for.
That, or unhealed trauma they finally have time to do work on instead of suppressing. Probably both
I don’t know about sabotage exactly. But when things are going well I often have a suspicious feeling like okay when does the other shoe drop? Or what am I missing? I’m trying to work on enjoying moments of happiness without grasping or looking for the downside.
I feel you big time. That high standard thing feels very Virgoan, as well as that Hermit tendency to isolate when you feel that you haven’t lived up to said standards. That is definitely a pattern for me too.
I don't worry about self-sabotage. I would speculate the reason people not in crisis go is in crisis, as you note, you gotta do or die, so to speak.
Out of crisis you have the ability to recognize "That was pretty awful, I never wanna be there again, and oh Goddesses if I lose my job I could be fucked in under a year". And that comes from feeling insecure.
And, well, nobody but the ultra-wealthy feels secure these days. And I think that anxiety is what people are seeking out therapy for.
That, or unhealed trauma they finally have time to do work on instead of suppressing. Probably both
i self-sabotage in deleterious ways, usually sacrificing any long-term goods because i think i don't deserve them